In the sacred dance of marriage, understanding and meeting the profound needs of your spouse is key to creating a union that reflects the divine love and wisdom outlined in the Scriptures. Let’s explore the specific needs highlighted for both husbands and wives, drawing inspiration from the timeless guidance found in the Bible.
To the Husband: What Your Wife Needs:
1. Spiritual Leadership:
The number one need of your wife, will always be that you be a spiritual leader. You’re the priest in your home.
Ephesians 5:25 – “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church…
As Ephesians 5:25 implores, husbands are called to love their wives as Christ loved the church. Embrace your role as a spiritual leader, guiding your household with love and devotion.
2. Affirmation and Appreciation:
The second need is affirmation and appreciation. Every woman wants to be affirmed, no matter how old she might be.
Proverbs 31:28 – “Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.”
Proverbs 31:28 reminds us of the power of affirmation. Every woman, regardless of age, desires to be acknowledged and praised. Shower your wife with words of appreciation, recognizing her worth.
3. Romance:
The third need is romance. Romance is cards, flowers, candy… Chivalry must never die. It’s opening the car door for her, etc. Making sure she’s good.
Song of Solomon 1:2-4 – “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth: for thy love is better than wine.”
Song of Solomon 1:2-4 paints a poetic picture of love’s sweetness. Keep the flame of romance alive through gestures like cards, flowers, and chivalrous acts. Let romance be a language that speaks volumes of your love.
4. Intimate Conversation:
The fourth need is intimate conversation. She needs you to listen to her thoughts about the events of her day. Listening to her, not to change her, but to understand her.
Colossians 3:19 – “Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.”
Colossians 3:19 emphasizes the importance of communication in marriage. Engage in intimate conversations, not to change her but to understand her. Listen attentively to her thoughts and emotions.
5. Transparency:
Her fifth need. She needs you to be transparent. She needs you, to be honest. Because God has built the woman to hound for the truth, even if the truth crushes her heart, she needs you to tell the truth.
Ephesians 4:25 – “Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another.”
Ephesians 4:25 guides us to speak the truth. Be transparent and honest with your wife. Even if the truth is difficult, she is built to seek and appreciate it.
6. Home Support:
Her sixth need is home support. She needs you to take care of the home. Make sure whatever is needed in the home – you provide for it. That’s your job.
1 Timothy 5:8 – “But if any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.”
Reflecting 1 Timothy 5:8, provide unwavering support for your home. It’s your responsibility to ensure the needs of the household are met. Take charge and be proactive in caring for your home.
7. Commitment to Family:
The seventh need – she needs someone that’s going to be committed to the family. Family is important to her.
Joshua 24:15 – “And if it seems evil unto you to serve the Lord, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served… but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.”
Joshua 24:15 underscores the importance of family. Be committed to your family, making choices that align with serving the Lord and nurturing a robust and godly foundation for your home.
To the Wife: What Your Husband Needs:
1. Respect:
The number one need of your husband will always be respect. Respect to the man, his oxygen to his brains. And when a man is respected at home, he has no business to roam.
Ephesians 5:33 – “Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself, and the wife see that she reverence her husband.”
Ephesians 5:33 emphasizes the significance of respect in a husband’s life. Let respect be the air he breathes, cultivating an environment where he feels valued and honoured.
2. Affection:
His second need rhymes with respect and has an X at the end.
Titus 2:4 – “That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children…”
Titus 2:4 encourages women to love their husbands. Shower your spouse with affection, expressing your love in tangible ways that deepen your connection.
3. Self-Care:
His third need is that he needs you to take care of you. He’s concerned about you; you got to take care of you.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20 – “What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you…”
Acknowledge the sanctity of your body, as highlighted in 1 Corinthians 6:19-20. Taking care of yourself is not only a personal responsibility but also an expression of respect for the divine dwelling within.
4. Home Support and Stability:
His fourth need. He also needs home support. And home stability.
Proverbs 31:27 – “She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.”
Proverbs 31:27 presents a powerful image of a woman who looks well to the ways of her household. Provide home support and stability, creating an environment where your husband feels secure and supported.
5. Life Companion:
And in his fifth need, he needs a life companion. He needs somebody to do life with him.
To grow together, you must flow together, and you will glow together!
Genesis 2:18 – “And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.”
Genesis 2:18 reveals God’s intention for companionship. Be the life companion your husband needs, journeying together through the highs and lows of life.
In embracing these biblical principles, you weave a tapestry of love, respect, and commitment within your marriage. As you actively apply these teachings, your union becomes a testament to the divine design for the sacred covenant between husband and wife. May your journey be blessed with the richness of God’s love and wisdom.
The Message Bearer, Cornelius Bella
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Marriage. It takes so much more work than we thought but it’s well worth the effort. Happy New year to you and your lovely wife xx
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