Love is nothing unless it is expressed correctly and received correctly.
Note this: when you honour your husband, you demonstrate your love for him; when you love your wife, you demonstrate your honour for her.
Say to your spouse often: “I was sent to you by God to do you good – say it meaningfully; if you can look into your spouse’s eyes, please do that”.
Here are some practical things we should put into practice – when it comes to Love expressions in our marriages:
1. Show and voice your appreciation: When did you last thank your spouse meaningfully? Expressing gratitude and appreciation for your spouse can go a long way in making them feel loved and valued. Take time to thank your spouse for the things they do for you and the family.
2. Spend quality time with your spouse regularly, doing things that both of you enjoy. This could be going out for a date, watching a movie, taking a walk together if possible, holding hands, or simply talking and sharing.
3. Communicate effectively: Communication is key in any relationship – Can you ask your spouse whether you know my frequencies? Keep tuning in and tuning it – There is a Holy Ghost frequency that Christian couples must work to attain. It’s important to communicate with your spouse in a way that is respectful and understanding. Listen to your spouse when they talk, and make sure you communicate your thoughts and feelings.
4. Show physical affection: Physical touch is an important way to express love in marriage. Show affection by hugging, kissing, holding hands, or simply sitting close to each other.
5. Pray for one another and pray together: Take time to pray for your spouse – and whenever possible, pray with your spouse regularly – agree on matters in prayer (1 puts away a Thousand and 2 Tens of Thousands), asking for God’s guidance and blessings in your marriage. Praying together can strengthen your relationship with each other and with God.
6. Read the Bible together: Read it with your spouse, discussing what you have read and how it applies to your life and marriage. This can help you both grow in your faith and deepen your connection with each other.
7. Attend church together: Attend church services, participate in Bible studies, and serve in ministry together. This can help you grow spiritually and strengthen your bond as a couple.
8. Serve each other: Serve your spouse by doing things for them without expecting anything in return. This could be doing the dishes, helping with the laundry, or caring for the kids.
9. Serve together: Find ways to serve others, whether volunteering at a local charity or helping out at church. Serving others can bring you closer together and help you live out your faith.
10. Practice forgiveness: Forgiveness is a key aspect of any relationship. Learn to forgive your spouse when they make mistakes and work together to resolve conflicts and grow closer as a couple.
Remember that love expression in a Christian marriage involves putting God at the centre of your relationship (your spouse is not your partner in crime but your co-pilot in destiny and soaring together, borne on the wings of the Holy Spirit.
Every couple should make the commitment to making intentional, genuine, and consistent efforts to love and serve one another with true honour and respect.
The Message Bearer, Cornelius Bella
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