Are You the Check or the Balance?
My lovely wife and I were listening to a teaching by our spiritual father (Rev. Olusola Areogun) and we were both being blessed by the ministration when a question dropped in my spirit “Are you the check or the balance?
It is quite common to hear the statement “check and balance” especially with regards to financial matters. But I somehow knew that God was speaking to me in the context of marriage. That as a Christian husband, God was asking me which one I was? The Check or the Balance?
I turned to face my wife, and I asked her exactly the same question – she is quiet used to me asking random questions knowing that she would also get the reasons behind me asking. I said, “M.S. (which is my special name for my wife) which one of us is the check and who is the balance”? She paused for a bit and responded that she can be both depending on the situation at hand.
I asked her to think about it very well, which one of the 2 are you more of? And after a while M.S. responded that she’s the balance.
In truth, with regards to the marital and spiritual operations in our home, my wife is indeed the balance and I am the check. We make the best decisions together operating under our respective roles. By divine Grace she balances very well; and with the Holy Spirit helping me I endeavour to check accurately regarding all critical matters. Over the years we have grown to love, respect and appreciate the divine gifts and graces we both have been blessed with for the furtherance of our marriage, family and home.
In any marriage where either the husband or the wife claims to be all in all (both the check and the balance), such home suffer the lack of divine harmony that God designed marriage to operate under. This imbalance will cause a lot of disagreements which births negative and tense atmospheres where peace and joy is fleeting. This is an atmosphere where witchcraft operations thrive such as manipulation, intimidation, domination, and oppression.
There is nothing to say that the husband who is the check would have no ability to bring balance neither am I saying that the wife who is the balance would be without the ability to check. But God in His amazing plan to bring two individuals together in a marriage union distributed graces between the husband and his wife to complement and complete each other. The word help-meet as used in the Bible is about being suitable in every way and in agreement with one another. God said in His Word that “it is impossible for two to walk together except they agree”; it is when there’s agreement, that the husband and his wife would be able to function maximally in their roles and it is God’s wisdom that the two have better results and make greater impact together in life and destiny. (Amos 3:3 KJV) Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
I believe that the understanding of the complementary role of the check and the balance in marriage: which is necessarily twain becoming one, results in the twain who have become one having better outcomes in all their endeavours. (Ecclesiastes 4:9 KJV) Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.
I have related the roles of the check and balance up to this stage to my own marriage and my wife and I role designation, but there is nothing to say that the wife cannot be the check or that the husband not be the balance.
In the garden of Eden (Genesis 3:1-6), between Adam and Eve, who do you think was the check and who was the balance?
I probably would say and I don’t know if you would agree or not that Adam was supposed to be the check and Eve the balance, but because they failed to function in their respective roles, nor have respect for, nor acknowledged the great importance of each other’s roles, they gave room for the enemy to infiltrate, to steal, kill and destroy. And this shortcoming and carelessness caused generational and exponential damages. But Praise be to God for He’s given us Jesus Christ the Generational and Exponential Repairer.
(John 3:16 AMPC) For God so greatly loved and dearly prized the world that He [even] gave up His only begotten (unique) Son, so that whoever believes in (trusts in, clings to, relies on) Him shall not perish (come to destruction, be lost) but have eternal (everlasting) life.
When a husband and wife fail to operate in their role as either the check or the balance, it opens up the marriage to demonic entries and the damage that this causes doesn’t only affect the marital relationship as husband and wife, but it also unfortunately extends to and affects their children and the general wellbeing of the home is never certain.
Are you a husband or a wife reading this message? I think God has allowed me share this message with you so that you can do an evaluation to know who in your marriage is the check and who is the balance. Whichever be the grace you possess out of the 2, make sure you function in it to the fullest.
As a married couple, effectively functioning in your respective roles as the check and the balance will give your relationship mutual respect, love and submission will not be an issue, peace of mind would be a possibility, joy will flow freely and you will create an atmosphere where the Holy Spirit is not restricted in anyway.
Let us pray: Lord God we commit our marriages into your hands please continue to supply us with the wisdom necessary to make it a delight in your sight and an overflowing joy in our hearts in the mighty Name of Jesus. Amen!
The Message Bearer
Cornelius Bella
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